Say what you mean and mean what you say. Easy, right?!
In moments of annoyance or anger this seems like foolish
talk. It's exactly what you don’t want to hear.
I’m really good at holding my tongue
in moments of anger resulting in my true feelings remaining a mystery to my husband and me not feeling resolution. I get to the close of our discussion and what I really meant never
made its way out.
Some of you rookie wives find holding your tongue an
impossible victory spewing every good, bad and ugly thought that crosses your
mind. Neither is the better problem to have. :)
One word I never let slip my tongue is the D word. Divorce.
The word contains heavy hints of mistrust, bitterness and pain even
if you really don’t mean it. Especially if you don't mean it.
It threatens and divides. It just plain hurts. We decided never to say it in our house. If we said it, it would be the real deal.
It threatens and divides. It just plain hurts. We decided never to say it in our house. If we said it, it would be the real deal.
We don't avoid the word because of denial or live ignorantly that our relationship is immune to divorce. We are human. We are broken. We are not above any sin. We don't allow the word to be tossed around in order to remain intentional about our commitment to each other. We're in it for the long haul.
Many of us have been exposed to arguments we "didn't mean." Have you ever told your mother you didn't ever want to speak to her again?! Told your brother he was stupid and selfish?!
I'm so guilty. Again.
I would venture to say many of us have said things we didn't mean. Immediately leaving our mouth we knew the hurt it would cause, knowing we would return with an apology while simultaneously shoving a foot in our mouth.
I'm so guilty. Again.
I would venture to say many of us have said things we didn't mean. Immediately leaving our mouth we knew the hurt it would cause, knowing we would return with an apology while simultaneously shoving a foot in our mouth.
Words are beautiful. Words hurt. Words can save a life. Words can break a heart in two. Words create imprints, memories, battle wounds and those don't just vanish.
You may have other words, phrases or subjects that are off limits in your moments of controlled rage.:)
Before you word vomit think of that imprint, that memory or that battle wound it may bring to the surface or worse, create.
"For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart." Matthew 12:34
Does your speech reflect what's on your heart? Is it all criticism? Are you honest?
Your words matter.
Think before you speak.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Praise him for the good he does with your words. Keep the rest to yourself. :P
Remember, Rookie wife's mantra?!
Much love,
Nicole
Before you word vomit think of that imprint, that memory or that battle wound it may bring to the surface or worse, create.
"For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart." Matthew 12:34
Does your speech reflect what's on your heart? Is it all criticism? Are you honest?
Your words matter.
Think before you speak.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
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| in it for the long haul, baby! |
Remember, Rookie wife's mantra?!
Much love,
Nicole
I love this! Can you still be a "rookie" wife even after 10 years because I sure do feel like it....;o) So happy to read your words as they are refreshing and affirming that even though marriage is sometimes hard, it is important to remember the "why" we chose to do it and that we are in it together. For better or worse and the worse sometimes makes it better in ways we may not see in the moment. You are a such a gift to me as a friend! smooches and love!
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